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Learn how to support survivors of sexual violence

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Two survivors of sexual violence share their stories with Change the Talk teen Peer Educators. Learn about the barriers they faced when disclosing what happened to them and what they want us all to know about how to support survivors

DO:

  • The most important thing that you can do is listen and be present with someone

DON'T:

  • It is important to show your concern but to not escalate the situation so that they feel like they have to take care of you, instead of you supporting them

YOU COULD SAY:

I'm so sorry to hear that happened to you. I am here to listen when you want to talk about it. 

DO:

  • Validate someone's experience of sexual violence and take it seriously

DON'T:

  • Minimize someone's experience by not taking it seriously

  • Justify the actions of the perpetrator by saying things like, "They probably didn't mean it that way."

YOU COULD SAY:

It's NOT okay that they did that to you. Do you want to report what happened?

DO:

  • Respect the person's privacy

  • Understand that sexual violence is never the victim's fault

DON'T:

  • Talk about the person's experience to other people

  • Shame the victim by saying things like, "You shouldn't have been drinking."

  • Blame the victim by asking, "Were you leading them on?" or "What were you wearing?"

YOU COULD SAY:

What you tell me stays between us, unless I think you're in immediate danger.

Hey, I know some places to go for help. Can I text them to you? We could even call them together if you want.

DO:

  • Offer to look into resources like counseling, support groups, clinics, or hotlines

  • Send them to Change the Talk's Resource Page

DON'T:

  • Make decisions for someone about what help to seek

YOU COULD SAY:

 
 
 
 

If a friend, family member or acquaintance share their experience of sexual violence with you, here are some suggestions of how to support them.

Sarine - Peer Educator

Olivia, Haley, and Jordan - Peer Educators